There’s a question that sits quietly in the hearts of many mothers and it's a question that can feel too tender to say out loud:

Will I ever feel like myself again?

For some, that question shows up months after birth, once the baby finally sleeps longer and the world assumes you’re “better.” But instead of relief, there’s a strange emptiness.

It can be eight months, nine, a year. I guess long enough that people stop calling it postpartum, yet short enough that your body and mind are still trying to catch up.

You might look back and miss the woman you were before: the one who had energy, purpose, structure, maybe even a bit of time and money to herself. You might wonder where she went.

And now?

You’re pouring from an empty cup.
You live on coffee and small victories.
You catch your reflection and see someone you almost recognize — tired eyes, messy bun, a heaviness that wasn’t there before.

People tell you “it gets easier.” But often what they really mean is you’ll get better at hiding how much you're getting by.

The Loss That No One Talks About

Postpartum isn’t just the birth of a baby. It’s the loss of an old version of you.

The version who felt in control, who defined her worth through measurable things — her work, her independence, her clarity.

When she disappears, there’s grief. Real, human grief.

And when the people around you don’t see it, that grief can grow even louder. Maybe you’re the first in your circle to have children and it feels impossible to connect. Maybe your clothes don’t fit like they used to and everything feels like too much effort now. Maybe you’re torn between wanting to be a great mom and a a great employee, while also missing the freedom of who you used to be when you didn't have to balance both.

The Long Way Back

Healing doesn’t mean becoming who you were. It’s about growing into who you’re becoming.

Postpartum recovery isn’t linear. It asks for patience. Time to slow down, rebuild trust with your body, and find softness again in the middle of all the noise.

It might start with something small:

• Asking for help, even when it feels uncomfortable.

• Taking five quiet minutes to just breathe.

• Letting go of control, one thing at a time.

• Writing down one small win today.

These moments don’t look like much, but they’re how you begin to feel human again.

When Homeopathy Can Help

If you’re struggling with that invisible fog — exhaustion, irritability, anxiety, or a sadness that won’t lift — homeopathy can offer gentle support to help bring your body and emotions back into rhythm.

Here are a few remedies homeopaths often consider for mothers in this season:

• Sepia– For the mother who feels disconnected, irritable, or hollow. Craves space and rest but feels guilty for needing it.

• Ignatia– For silent grief, sobbing or the lump in your throat that won’t shift.

• Kali Phos– For mental fatigue and nervous system exhaustion.

• Phosphoric acid– For deep depletion, both physical and emotional, when you feel “flat” and unmotivated.

Each remedy is chosen for the individual, not just the symptoms, but the whole picture of how you’re feeling.

The Invitation

If you’ve been wondering where “you” went, you're still here. Just a new version of you in a new chapter.

Give yourself time. Let healing be slow. Let grace meet you in the mess.

🌿Gentle next steps

• Read: Download my free Birth Recovery Guide. it’s a simple way to track your healing, both physical and emotional.

• Reach out: If you’d like support, book a free discovery call. We’ll talk through what’s been hardest and explore gentle, natural ways to help you feel more like yourself again.

With gentleness,

Leah Bugg, CHP

Board Certified Classical Homeopath
https://leaphomeopathy.com